Recently on the forum, someone posted a question.

“What must a guy do to grow up and become a real man?”

I have strong feelings about that.

It has nothing to do with how many women you bed.

Or how much you accomplish in life.

And it certainly has nothing to do with disrespecting women in general.

Or losing your ability to feel for another person.

Instead, it comes down to one single thing.

Here is the most important thing a guy must do if he wants to be ‘real man.’

If you can do this, you have become a man, mastered inner game, taken hold of your reality:

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If you stop and think and wonder where you are
Look up, at me. I can’t be very far.
Big and bright, just like you created.
- Boyfriendgirlfriend

I’m looking at pictures of her and me together and I almost don’t recognize them.

I see me but I wonder how I was so secure at the time.

It’s like I never really truly looked at her.  I was always looking away. My attention was focused elsewhere while hers was focused on me.

Now it’s changed.

There’s a brand new attention.

I am focused on her.  She got my attention.  Which indicates to me that I’ve probably lost her attention.

Or at least it feels that way.

She’s fucking my best friend.  I found out two weeks ago. Read the rest of this entry »

One of the most important aspects to becoming great with women is learning how to deal with bad behavior.

Some people call these “tests,” where a woman will purposefully test you to see if you are as confident as you first came across.

However, in any relationship, there will be points when the other person does something you don’t like.

Maybe she disrespects you.  Or hurts you.  Or angers you.

The way you react in these situations will determine the future nature of your relationship with that person.

Years ago I had a friend who was in a relationship.  He cared about her, but she would nag him.  Incessantly.

“Joe, don’t sit like that!”  “Joe why do you say things like that!”  “Joe don’t eat so many cupcakes!”

It was abysmal to be around the two of them because of how she nagged him.

She was insane.  Beyond just the nagging.

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I’m in the bookstore.  I see this cute girl walking ahead of me.

She has tight skinny gray hipster jeans on, auburn hair and dorky glasses.

She walks into the card section.

I walk over behind her.

I couldn’t think of much to say so I say “Hey, do you know where I can find a card for a bachelor party?”

She lights up with a smile and says “Oooh… I don’t know…”

“What kind of card do you get someone for a bachelor party,” she says.
She was friendly, looking around for me.

“Maybe a condolence card?” I say.

“Maybe…” she says. Read the rest of this entry »

I’m not the most handsome guy in the world.

There are plenty of things wrong with the way I look.

I have a big nose, small squinty eyes, a weak chin.  My hair is thinning.

I’ve always had very poor posture.  And a bit of a belly.

My skin is pasty white.  Hold my arm up next to someone and I am almost always whiter.

I’m 36 years old and spent a decade and a half trying to meet women.   And never has a woman come up to me.

I never got approached by women.  Ever.

I’ve gotten interest in social circles, but it has always always been after women have gotten to know me.

My looks are nothing to write home about.  But when I walk around, I feel like I’m gorgeous. Read the rest of this entry »

A while ago, I was out to dinner with a really hot girl I was seeing.

I asked her a question.

“How important are looks to women?”

“Have you ever dated a guy that wasn’t as hot as me?” I said with a wink.

She started talking about a previous guy she’d dated, a “friend” of hers she described as a natural…

“This guy was not so great in the looks department,” she said, “But he walks into bars like he’s the hottest guy in there.

And everyone buys it.

They’re like “That’s the hottest guy in the whole bar!” Read the rest of this entry »

It’s often been said that before you get a great woman, that you need to “have a life” of your own first.

What does this mean?  And how do you get a life?

There are two things that will give you the foundation for ‘having a life’ and thus building a social circle.

These two separate things are: passions and interests.

Passions are things that drive your life. It is your purpose.  It is what  you spend a lot of time working on.

Your passion is what you end up thinking about in your spare time because it gives you pleasure to think about it. Read the rest of this entry »

It’s been almost four years since I first approached a woman I didn’t know.

Four years since I began this journey of changing my confidence with women.

It was the hardest thing I’ve ever done in my life and, by far, the most worthwhile.

There is nothing like feeling great in social situations.

Human beings are social creatures.  When we feel good socially, we feel good in our selves.

You probably wouldn’t recognize me before I began.  I was a shadow of the man I am now.

Still, it’s not all good days.

I noticed throughout my journey, that no matter how good I get, no matter how confident I become, I still feel unconfident at times.

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“Anyone that’s great with women knows how to have a good time,” says Cory Skyy.

Cory knows a thing or two about women.

He’s heralded by top guys as one of the best guys in the world at getting women.

But what could one of the of the best guys in the world have to say about having a good time?

“Why lie to create a crazy story to tell women?  Have a life instead,” he says.

Download this free podcast and find out how having a good time can help you completely turn things around with women–and it has nothing to do with going out to bars.

Women love guys that are adventurous and spontaneous.  But how do you do it?

We also delve into dating.  We talk about what he does on a date, what to do if the energy drops, and how to know when to end the date.

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I recently sat down with a gorgeous girl friend of mine and talked about her experiences with men and getting physical.  Whatever you thought about sexual escalation and women, think again…

You recently went on a date. What happened?

I met this guy at a party and he asked me for my number.  He texted me and followed up and asked me to meet him for a drink, which I did.  We met at this artsy bar in Manhattan.

I could tell he was confident with women and dating.  He was more forward than most guys, but not in a creepy way.  Within the first half hour of the date he had his hand on my knee and touched my hair, all in conversation.  Most guys don’t make those moves.

It was actually flattering.  It was like ‘Huh, this guy likes me.’

It’s cool when a guy is forward like that and connected with really great conversation, which we had.  I feel like we were able to get into some cool subjects and talk about things that were important to us.  We were just talking and that was cool but also with the touching it wasn’t like we were just talking.

Did the touching put pressure on you?

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